Hi, and in this post I’m going to give you three different ways to talk about sex without appearing like a creep.
In order to understand how to talk to a girl about sex without sounding like a creep you need to understand why guys often sound like creeps when they do talk about sex.
Most guys talk about sex in one of two different ways. What he likes or what she likes. Specifically so he can either have her do things to him or so he can do things to her. The problem is this is too blunt. While it may turn him on, a female mind is far more complex when it comes to arousal.
A girl needs to be aroused mentally before she’s aroused physically. A basic mental imagery doesn’t cut it for a girl just like it does for a guy.
Your goal is to get her to think about her favorite sexual acts. Whether she tells them to you or not is actually quite irrelevant. As long as she is thinking of them you’re winning.
The more she thinks about sex, specifically the kind that she likes, the more she’ll become aroused and the better your chance of seducing her.
What you need to do is to hack into her brain and it’s actually a lot simpler than it sounds. Before I share these three techniques to talk about sex let’s see how it’s possible to actually hack in someone’s brain.
Don’t think of a pink elephant. Don’t think of the color pink. In fact, don’t even think about any kind of elephant or the word pink for example.
Just don’t do it. Did you succeed? I doubt it.
Mostly because just hearing the words will instantly start to project the imagery into your brain. It’s the same with sex. Once she starts accessing that imagery, whether she tells you about it or not, she’s going to start to visualize it.
The problem is if you just ask her to tell you something she likes sexually then she’ll likely to be fixated on saying no to you or more likely she’s going to be embarrassed that she’ll have to speak out loud and then she’s going to refuse you and her access to it.
The key is to be subtle. Thankfully the more subtle you are the less likely you are to come off like a creep.
It’s a bit of a long winded explanation, but now you’ve got the basic foundation in why it’s important to be able to discuss sex in a subtle way, here are simple ways to achieve it.
One of them, the question game.
This is probably the easiest. You’re taking turns asking questions that you both have to answer. It’s a great conversation filler and it creates a natural escalation.
Start asking questions like when did you have your first kiss or what was the worst sexual experience of your life and then it becomes only natural to ask where the craziest place was that she had sex. Before you know it she’s visualizing her favorite sexual fantasies.
Number two, massage.
One of my favorite ways to introduce sex is to give them a hand massage while I’m speaking to them. It takes a minute or two for me to get to relax into it and then I always justify it by telling them I want to show them this cool trick that a friend of mine showed me.
Then as I’m giving the hand massage I tell them that the person that taught me the hand massage was a previous girlfriend who firmly believed that massage was the key to deep emotional connections which always led to the best sex. I then ask whether they think deep emotional connections are important in the bedroom and let them lead from there.
The best part is that if they don’t agree they’ve just told me they’re probably down for casual sex. This is why it’s one of my favorite things to do.
The last one is actually incredibly easy.
Just talk about sex in the third person. You can point to a couple that are dancing or interacting in any way really and then you can play a game where you each guess what they’re like in bed.
You can make it funny and you’ll have a lot of amusing conversation that makes talking about sex normal. Another way to introduce sex is actually explained at the Tao of Badass.
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